Last week, we looked at how to make more of the opportunities you have to make things different.
Wafting your own magic wand around yourself and the way you do things is one thing, but how can you use it effectively to ‘magic’ better ways of doing things from your people?
BTW, if you have one of these – let me know and I’ll patent it.
Because here’s the secret. You can only change yourself and you cannot change others directly, however hard you try.
Now, what you can do (and successful managers do this very effectively), is to amend your own behaviors and attitudes to influence your people to be different. When they are different, they will see better ways to be and then the delivery of their work will improve.
The ball is back in your court.
So, here’s an action you might want to think about. What are the issues that you come up with that are your ‘I wish…’ moments with your people.
Then, what are ways that you could start to amend the way YOU are, that might be more likely to get the performances that would help them grow and develop into what you want?
Don’t know? Then ask them what they need to be different from you – and how that will help them.
This tactic makes the difference in so many ways.
You partner with them in solutions; you show that you are willing to change; you show you are not the smart-arse who thinks they know everything; you show you value them for their input too (there are more benefits, by the way…).
In the ‘Circles of Influence’ in your life, you are at the very center.
Make it worthwhile the only way you can, by looking inside first, before you seek to blame others.