Management can be a tricky role to play. Not only is the work challenging, but sometimes it’s hard to find the help you need.
Yet there are people all around.
The simple act of asking you team for help can be a difficult step for many managers, because it can seem to be that they are not that tough, irreplaceable and fail-proof character they feel they ought to be.
Whilst that might take a little time to overcome, there might be more value in taking the first tentative steps than might seem at first obvious, so it’s a path worth pursuing.
By saying ‘I need your help’, managers open up a whole new ball game, which can have profound effects for those within whom they place this trust.
There are four reasons this works well for managers, not to say their people, who get their share in some positives too…
1. Emotional – the words ‘need’ and ‘help’ dig deep within people, such that they find it hard to refuse. Providing help to someone who needs it can be as compelling as someone who is sick and requires support.
2. Valued – you are asking them for help with something that they feel you believe they can achieve for you, so they feel useful. That is a hugely valuing sense they get of personal validation.
3. Engaged – the help you are asking them for, gets them involved in something that the ‘manager’ has specially asked for help in. Does that focus attention or what?
4. Personal – it’s a one-to-one appeal you are making to some one person (though this can be asked of a whole team too, it’s effective in a different way). This is almost a ‘secret’ pact between you, which has a huge power.
Using this tactic is a valuable tool to have available to you. You can use it in the following circumstances when you choose to:-
• You can use it to really create space for yourself as others help you.
• You can use it as a tactic to build someone’s confidence.
• You can also use it when you think that a stretch and challenge will be a valuable development exercise for someone on your team
• You can use it when it will help you build, strengthen and enhance a relationship for you
• You can use it when maybe you didn’t even need to, though you have to be careful that to them, the request is fully authentic and necessary for you.
The value of asking for help cannot be overestimated as long as you are able to get out of your own way in achieving it.
(c) 2010 Martin Haworth. This is a short excerpt from one of 52 lessons in management development at Super Successful Manager!, an easy to use, step-by-step weekly development program for managers of EVERY skill level. Find out more at http://www.SuperSuccessfulManager.com.